Should You Have A Paternity DNA Test?
DNA tests are becoming more and more popular but should you have a DNA test? Before deciding to have a DNA test there are a number of things you need to consider. In this article we will be discussing some things you should consider before having a paternity test, an ancestry DNA test or similar DNA tests.
Firstly, if you are considering a paternity DNA test, think first about the situation at the moment; how old is the child now and what is your current relationship to the child? If the child has not yet been born is a newborn baby and you have not yet been able to bond with the child because of uncertainty as to whether you are the father or not then having a paternity DNA test may be the solution for you and these tests can help cement family relationships that are not yet established by confirming who the father is. If, however, the child is older and you have already formed a relationship with the child as its father then paternity DNA testing can actually have negative consequences; what happens if you suddenly discover you are not the father? How will this affect your future relationship with the child? You will need to think through these issues carefully before deciding to go for a paternity DNA test.
These factors also need to come into consideration if you are testing for other family relationships - for example grandparent DNA tests, sibling DNA tests, etc. No matter what the relationship it is important to consider where the relationship is at currently and how you expect the DNA test to change the relationship. It can be an extremely traumatic experience to discover that what you thought was the relationship between you and someone is actually not the case. Visit http://www.geneticdnatestinghelp.org for more information on DNA testing.
What about genealogical and ancestry DNA tests? If you are considering going for an ancestry DNA test you should think about how the results could influence your life as well and how you would feel about obtaining different results. In one case someone who thought they were African American discovered that they actually had no African blood in them but a mixture of other races. Having lived their whole life as an African American this presented many problems - who were they really and how were they going to react to this sudden change in their identity? These are questions that you need to consider when considering going for an ancestry DNA test is how it could change your identity.
DNA tests can be very useful and informing, they have many benefits and in certain circumstances can bring families closer together, help build a family tree or contribute to our lives in other ways; but DNA tests can also be destructive and it is important when considering whether to have a DNA test that you take these factors into consideration.
marylandsfynest January 6th, 2009, 6:00 pm
What should I do while waiting for a paternity test?
My bf is going to take a paternity test thursday on a baby that his ex gf recently had in dec.
As the day draws nearer I am getting upset, and withdrawn from him. In the meantime what should I focus on?
I love him and he loves me. I know that if he His the father that I will prob. be slightly withdrawn at first but we love each other to seperate over something like this.
Curiously January 6th, 2009, 11:02 pm
trap him and get pregnant yourself lol
Yikes…I would hate that hahaha
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Anthony F January 6th, 2009, 11:04 pm
Sounds as if the conception was before you met, so why the problem? If he truly loves you, you wont have a problem as he will take care of his baby without paying any attention to its mother. that is the real worry isn't it?
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pppmntgrl January 6th, 2009, 11:06 pm
I would get on the pill. No sense in having two unwed mothers.
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Nax January 6th, 2009, 11:08 pm
Ouch, definitely not a fun position to be in. It is normal for you to be upset.
Being in limbo is one of the hardest things to do, so imagine what it must be like for him. All the consequences and responsibilities if he is the father must be daunting to say the least.
He must have a million things going through his head, including the fact that he does not know how you will take it.
I think the best thing you can do, is take some time out, not necessarily break up or anything, but give each other plenty of space.
Maybe you could catch up with some old friends to take your mind off things.
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lostinyonkers January 6th, 2009, 11:10 pm
Try not to stress on it, if you love him you have to accept what comes with him. If he is the father, he will have to make sure he pays his child support and gets his visitation. You are going to have to keep cool about it and only voice your opinion if asked.
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fojimo January 6th, 2009, 11:12 pm
relax. its unfair to be upset at him for something that occured before your time with him. just get ready to be a part of it should the baby be his. if this is a result of him cheating on you then you need to remember it was your decision to stay with him rather than breaking up. if you are not ready to be a part of that babies life too then you should rethink your decision to stay with him. it would be unfair to all of you if you stay without wanting to be a part of it. good luck.
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layla January 6th, 2009, 11:14 pm
he is probably going through a hard time right now himself try to be supportive of him and remember that the test has not come back yet.
you should try to deal with that issue when it comes up. If you stress too much now it might break you two up, and for no reason maybe.
don't withdraw yourself from him.
Take the time and spend more time with him now why you have all the time in the world.
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